How To Survive Cuffing Season
Everything around us has started to shift which lets us know the dating scene is changing for the colder months- leaves are falling, the sunsets before 6pm, the store windows are decorated for the holidays, and Starbucks brings out their red holiday cups. Guys begin courting girls, you start getting those “Hey Stranger” text messages from the old boo, and oddly enough men seem more open to the idea of dating exclusively than they did during the spring and summer months. We present to you “Cuffing Season”
For those that don’t know or are unfamiliar with the cuffing term, let me break it down for you: Cuffing Season runs from late October to early March. There are two reasons why most men and women want a cuddle buddy to cuff with it’s either to 1: Keep warm as the weather gets colder or 2. A trophy to show off during holiday gatherings to avoid the infamous question of “when are you going to settle down and have kids?” Those reasons seem harmless but it wouldn’t be right if I didn’t warn you to say that these relationships typically have a 5-7 month life expectancy rate. When spring approaches, singles start letting it all out. Vacations, parties, happy hour, Sunday brunch, and other fun activities that start to take priority over being in a relationship. Which unfortunately leads to the conversation we all dread “We need to talk”.
Now this term of “Cuffing Season” always seems to have a bad connotation to it but not all relationships that come from cuffing season fail. There may be potential for that late night booty call to turn into something more long-term. Here are some tips on surviving cuffing season and having this relationship work for you.
Prepare Yourself. Anytime you are preparing to date someone, you should always try to think about what you want to get out of the relationship/experience. If you know this or have an idea you will be able to walk through it accordingly. Whether its casual dating or long-term exclusivity, you should make sure your mind is in the right place so your actions can match it. If you’re looking for something casual, be real with yourself and don’t lead the person on. And if you are looking for something long-term, don’t be anyone’s sex toy.
Wisely & Timely. As mentioned you will have new and old prospects make their interest in you known. Make sure that you know what you are walking into, weigh the pros and cons of this potential relationship. Make sure you can stand to be with this person as winter months are long and dreadful. The worse thing would be not being able to tolerate this person in small doses. Who wants stress? Take some time to find the right person to cuff with. Try not to get caught up in a cycle of moving things too quickly. Take your time to figure out the person and makes them tingle. Let things develop naturally over time and if he/she is on the same page the connection is bound to flourish.
Treat it, as it is A Relationship. Once you are all cuffed up do NOT sleep on the opportunities to woo them, of course that is only if you are looking for something long-term. Just because your relationship came about during the months of cuffing doesn’t mean you don’t put in effort. Dress up. Go on dates. Netflix and chill can be fun but don’t make it a routine. Keep it active, fun, and be spontaneous- so the both of you don’t get bored.
Part Ways if Needed. Let it go if it’s not what you want. No one needs added stress to their lives if something isn’t going as planned. Anything that doesn’t serve a purpose in your life can be gone. Be honest and move on.
Both parties should be aware that this relationship is for the fall and winter only. If you want your cuff partner to become a long-term thing try and follow some of what was written above. Most importantly be honest with what you want in the moment and in the future, that way you don’t set yourself up.
Have you drafted your cuff buddy? Has a cuffing situation become long-term? Share with us in the comments below